The following pamphlet was prepared in response to the events of September 11, 2001, and distributed to parents of all children in the elementary schools.

 

America Under Attack Helping Children Cope

As our nation struggles to deal with the terrifying events of 911, it is important to remember the impact we have on our children and to do our best to help them cope in a healthy way. Perhaps these suggestions will be useful.

* Remain calm and give messages of reassurance. Children will reflect your level of anxiety. They are very much aware of the emotional state of their parents. Don't project your fears onto your children.

*Limit exposure to television coverage and to adult discussions. Although you may feel a need to watch the television reports as every event unfolds, it is best to turn it off while young children are in the room. Be aware of what your children are overhearing when you talk to your spouse or friends, especially if you notice high anxiety levels, crying, nightmares, or asking the same questions repeatedly.

*Allow children to express their concerns and feelings. Be aware of their mood, behaviors, and facial expressions. You may have to help them put their thoughts into words. Say something like, "I can see that you must be feeling kind of scared about this." Don't deny the seriousness of the events, but also remember to express hope and confidence that people in authority are working hard to keep us safe and make things better.

*Maintain your daily schedule as best you can. Do the things you normally do. Routines give children a sense of security.

*Focus on the opportunity to draw together, be more considerate of those around us, and look for ways to show our compassion rather than getting caught up in blame and hatred. Help children see how tragic it is that this level of hate exists and how serious the consequences can be. Do not tolerate making fun of the event or any kind of disrespect.

*Knowing what to say may be difficult. When no words come to mind, try a hug and say, "This is really hard for all of us."

*Remember that school counselors and teachers are here to help.